Getting New Glasses

About a week ago I picked up a pair of new eye glasses. This was necessary because I managed to lose my glasses about a month and a half ago. That is a long story in and of itself, but not the purpose of this post.

The glasses came to mind because of what I realized during the period that I did not have my preferred pair to wear every day.

Because I travel extensively for work last year I decided to purchase a back-up pair of glasses in event that something ever happened to my glasses. It would really be a disaster to be on the road and to break or lose my glasses and not have a back-up pair. Because I had two pairs of glasses, I sometimes would switch my glasses wearing the back-up pair so that I would not feel like I wasted money having two pairs of glasses when no emergency had struck. The back-up pair of glasses look and feel great, but I am one of those people that has worn the same frame for a very long time. The result is that I have become quite accustomed to the look and feel of my old glasses. Even though I have changed prescriptions twice in past seven years, and once I broke my frames playing basketball with my sons, I have still consistently gone back to the same glasses, one time having to hunt down the frames from a distributor.

Wearing my new glasses for about a month caused me to step out of my typical routine and even caused me to appear differently to others. My old glasses were truly inconspicuous. Over the years more than one person has noticed me cleaning or removing my glasses and remarked that they did not know that I wore glasses. I think that this has been much of the appeal of the old glasses. The new glasses as I have said are quite nice but in contrast to the old pair they have evoked a number of comments like “nice eyewear”, or “your glasses look great.” In each case I have thanked the person giving the compliment, but I realize every time that I really don’t want people seeing my glasses as a fashion statement or somehow signifying that I am interested in a particular look. I also noticed that while my two prescriptions are the same, my back-up pair of glasses caused me to see things differently. The shape of the frame caused me to move my head a certain way when reading and to make adjustments to use the progressive bi-focal say while I was driving or watching television. This took some getting used to doing and I yearned just to get my old glasses back.

When I did pick up my replacements to my original pair of glasses I was happy to be able to look and feel the same once again. In the week that I have been wearing them I have not had one comment on my glasses. I am back to being inconspicuous.

This morning as I was packing for a trip I was putting the back-up glasses in my suitcase and I was struck by my recollection of how they had changed the way I saw things over the past month. I was also thinking about how they caused others to see me differently. People noticed something about me that was different, and they attributed those differences to the glasses that I was wearing. I too noticed something different so I made adjustments in the way I looked at things so that while wearing the new glasses I would still be able to see clearly. I wondered just how often in our lives we could stand to take a moment to put on new glasses.

While my experience was with new glasses without a change of prescription, how many times in our lives do we find ourselves changing our prescription (the way we actually see things) and being amazed as to how we now see? How often do we realize that we need new glasses (knowing that we are not seeing things quite so clearly) but we ignore that and just go on seeing things just a bit out of focus. Or worse, we find ourselves only able to see those things that are right in front of our eyes not really able to see the big picture.

We all would do well from time to time if we changed our glasses. Author Stephen M.R. Covey in his book The Speed of Trust, suggest that we can see the pervasive impact of “the speed of trust” when we put on our “Trust Glasses.” I love this idea as the metaphor certainly fits my experiences of the past month. Wearing the other glasses caused me to see things differently, and it also caused others to see me differently. Can you just imagine what would be the impact on your life, your business, and your relationships if you were wearing different glasses that caused you to trust more? What if those same glasses caused you to act in a way that was consistently trustworthy? This is not to suggest that any of us are behaving in a morally bankrupt way, but rather looking at a refinement in our behaviors. Each of us could stand to really be more precise in our speech, or to apologize when we are wrong, or to stand up for what is right, and to avoid hidden agendas. We could all improve in speaking the truth even when it is not convenient. As Stephen M.R. Covey says, acting in these ways causes others to trust us more.

I read a book two years ago titled “The Four Agreements” which was written by Miguel Ruiz. While the book impacted me in a number of ways, I am always reminded of the first agreement. The first agreement is “be impeccable with your word.” This is what came to me this morning while packing. The back-up glasses caused me to look in a way that people noticed. Not long ago when a man was well dressed people noticed. We used words like natty, sharp, or pressed. To me all of these add up to being impeccable. People notice when we are impeccable. When we are impeccable with our words people notice that too. When we speak and behave consistently, and when we are transparent we get the attention of those around us.

I think that it is time that more of us experience the impact of putting on new glasses. As we see things differently we will act differently. I know that impeccable is not a word that is very common in our vocabulary these days, but I think it is time to bring the word back. Let’s start by being impeccable with our words. Let’s truly say exactly what we mean. No spin, no double talk, no straddling the fence. Let’s do what we say we will do and not leave things open to interpretation. Let’s speak honestly with each other balancing that honesty with a genuine concern and avoiding just “speaking our mind.”

Losing my glasses cost me a great deal financially. But the value of having my eyes truly open once again is well as they say Priceless!